Navigating the world of dating comes with its fair share of surprises, and the latest trend to make waves is “paperclipping.” Far from being a positive phenomenon, paperclipping involves individuals who struggle to let go, lingering in your life even after a breakup or the end of communication. Let’s delve into the details of this intriguing yet bothersome dating trend.
What is the Paperclipping Dating Trend?
Paperclipping refers to the act of someone persisting in your life post-relationship or cessation of communication without establishing a meaningful connection. This might manifest as your ex sending memes on social media or engaging with your old pictures—a subtle but persistent presence that can be unnerving.
The term gained popularity recently but was originally coined by dating coach Evan Marc Katz in the early 2000s.
Why Do People Paperclip?
Clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly, based in California, sheds light on the psychology behind paperclipping. She explains that individuals resorting to paperclipping often display emotional immaturity and an inability to engage in meaningful relationships. The act may stem from unconscious fears of abandonment or rejection, leading the person to disappear before the relationship becomes significant, only to reappear seeking validation and importance. Unfortunately, such individuals rarely stay long enough to experience genuine connection due to underlying fears and low self-worth.
More Dating Trends: NATO
As if paperclipping wasn’t enough, another dating trend has surfaced—NATO, short for “Not Attached To An Outcome.” This approach to dating encourages individuals, particularly Gen Z, to embrace the journey without fixating on the destination. The concept revolves around dating with zero expectations, allowing for a more laid-back approach free from the pressures of finding “the one.”
In the ever-evolving landscape of dating, understanding these trends can empower individuals to navigate relationships with clarity and set healthy boundaries.
